Saturday 3 February 2018

The pursuit of a Dream Life

HEY SHOUTERS


It is true to say that our lives have become extremely busy and from day to night we are engaged in work that we might not even like doing. But, even then we continue doing it.

The question here is WHY?




The answer given by most of us to this "WHY?" is "We don't have a Choice".

I would like to believe that this is not entirely false.  

"Why don't we have a choice?"
Because, right from the starting of our journey, our lives get predefined, not by us but by others!
There is a golden path that has been shown to most of you, a journey which starts with words,

"Do well in your Class 10 boards, get your desired stream and life would be easy going."


The reality is, a lot of us don't even get the chance to select the stream and subjects we want to study.


The next thing that we get to hear is

"Do well in your class 12 boards, get admitted into a good college and life would be easy going".

And this chain goes on to just focusing and doing well in academics, getting a job and then having an easy going life. But in reality, Life gets only gets harder and harder..



We put aside everything, every desire, every dream, every innovative idea that we think of, in order to achieve something that has a specified path to reach and the end result is known. We prefer following such a path not because we want to, but because our family and society wants us to.


"Why should we just abandon the path we have been following for so long?"


Imagine that you are excited for a movie but someone tells you the entire story, including the ending. Will you still be that excited? Probably not!

So, how can we enjoy our life if all the things are already decided? There would be no uncertainties, no risk and hence, no excitement.


We people do have this tendency of postponing things thinking it not to be the right time.


My friends, what I feel, the time when one decides to do something that he wants to, be it starting  his new business startup or writing a blog, is indeed the "right time" :)


The excitement we get from the ideas that will follow our journey.. those sleepless nights thinking about "What if my idea fails/succeeds?", and then finally getting towards the end..

Even failure would not be as bitter as never trying to do what we want to! Because, be it a success or a failure, but atleast we won't have that guilt of not trying..
This guilt is something which sits within you.. that feeling of not being able to enjoy life your way is an immense contributor to stress and depression, as I mentioned in my previous post..


"The rat race for survival is a bitter factor"

People have become so busy 
in taking care that they don't cross the deadline to achieve their monthly target, that they cross that fine that separates us from robots. Instead of running after something that has no value to you, engage yourself in something that speaks to you on a level other than just survival.



Never stop believing yourself. Be practical and make endless efforts in achieving what you desire.

You need not care about what anyone thinks but be honest to yourself.
One day when you will achieve your goals, life would really be EASY GOING :)

                     "DON'T DREAM YOUR LIFE, LIVE YOUR DREAMS"





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Monday 29 January 2018

A Life without Depression

HEY SHOUTERS


With this post I would like address an issue which I consider needs to be given focus on, and its for all those students who due to some reason or the other have gone into DEPRESSION!





One of the saddest things in the world is to feel broken, and although you've somehow been figuratively ripped apart, you feel like you can never be put back together again.

Scoring good marks has always been the most important criteria for us. I  remember the time when I was giving my boards and everyone around me was telling me not to take much pressure as they knew I will do great in my exams. Those never-ending hopes were a constant source of fear within me, and a question that constantly kept coming back to me was "What if I fail?".
I was lucky enough to do well, but luck doesn't favour everyone.

As we enter our college life, the situation gets worse. Every now and then we hear news about students committing suicide, students who mostly belong to the most prestigious institutes of India i.e., IITs and NITs. I can't even begin to imagine the amount of pressure and trauma they must have gone through.
The reasons for depression can be endless.
  • Not being able to cope up with the pressure of completing your syllabus.. to find yourself nowhere in the race to reach that peak position. 
  • Most of the students need to leave their home, come in a new city and stay in hostels, PGs or in a rented flat, in order to pursue their academics. 
  • Even the food given in hostels is so abominable, that the thought of eating that food for next 4 years can put a person into depression. 
  • Breakup with the person who, according to us, "we love the most" and then thinking we can't live without him/her has contributed tremendously to this cause!

According to me, this problem of internal conflict arises when we don't have anyone to share them with. We start questioning ourselves..  
"What am I  staying here for?"   "Why am I still here?"
Most of the time we don't even have an answer!
But the real questions we need to ask ourselves before doing anything stupid are


"Won't we get any opportunities in future?"
"How will our parents feel when they see us lifeless?"
"Has all the love in this world become extinct?"

One of the most important things to tell yourself when you go through such a period, is that it is okay to not be okay. It is okay to not feel wholesome right now because it will get better. But the only thing that is not okay is giving up


 The problem of depression can be only solved by sharing all the negative thoughts with your companion.

 The real happiness comes from friends and the jokes we share with one another, it comes from family members and their unconditional love for us.


Suicides are the act of cowards because life gives us endless opportunities. Just be patient and put your efforts in a constructive direction. Learn from your failures and never give up hope :)


“I am thankful for all of those who said NO to me. Its because of them I’m doing it myself.” – Albert Einstein




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